Wednesday 31 October 2012

Growth

hello.
yea...I'm back on track in my Law subject with a 74% after last time's 66%.
just then I'm smacked by the English assignment. Nevertheless, I think it's quite fun, as Sherlock Holmes once said: My mind...rebels at stagnation...

Although assignment is due next Thursday, but there's still pretty much to cover, esp when it comes to a 25-page-assignment. Good thing is I have a group...but yea...we're not making much progress yet. Maybe until then we would realize the ticking of the clock is actually draining our blood. Happy Halloween, by the way. *this gets more random*

oh yea..one more thing....badminton. I think I really suck at it now. And after some shuttle-cock-picking-session, rather than hitting the cocks, I've gained some things, despite it's kinda painful...which leads to my first point: (not all of them derive from just playing badminton, but also the activities that complement and are attached to it.)

1) Learning is painful. Regardless of my stamina, skills or even my weird behaviour, the words that sometimes pokes on them sometimes annoy me....pretty much. But then from whom the words came from are friends that really made me grow.

2) Bringing a racket that you're not gonna use it....then why bring it? It certain circumstances, you...or I may think that it would be "appropriate" to adapt to the environment, but the perceptions and reactions from others are the true reflections to my so-called "adaptation". Most of the time, it's not what you think is right, but what others think so sometimes should be taken into consideration.

3) Get lighter shoes. Yes....I think my shoes are kinda heavy so I can't really jump and ended up smacking nothing.

4) Actions are actually tougher than words.... well not in the case where you insult or condemn someone or something. Watching people playing on TV while giving comments on their mistakes is simply easy, but essentially, playing yourself would be like having your legs cemented to the floor.

5) Watch where you're going. Yea...once I tried to pick the shuttle cock from the court beside without realising that I was about to get smacked by the players there.

6) I have poor reflexes.... yes...I'm working on that. *probably due to heavy shoes

7) Sometimes, let's just play like how we like to...without rules. As long you hit the ball, inside the line...outside the line....nothing matters.

8) It takes sip by sip, bit by bit to make changes...in yourself. But, most importantly, don't lose yourself. *unfortunately, I making changes to gain myself back.

9) It's alright to expose your weakness among friends...as long you know how to control them without having your friends using them against you. *I suck in this.

10) People react to different kind of people. Everybody knows how this works. Need no elaboration on this. *awkwardness

11) Learn from the past, but don't get haunted by them. *I working on this aspect also. Sometimes, you just wanna begin again, but it ain't gonna happen. What I am today is made up from the past, and I hate myself for what I've done....seriously.

12) Nobody understands you more than you do. The term 'understand' may narrow down to very specific aspects, and not many know about them. So, from those advice and comments, just sieve out the relevant ones.

13) Awkwardness...gets more awkward when you have no idea how to respond. So, in most situations like this, you'd hear me moaning "aiyaaa~"... Apparently, I can't think of a better way to tackle these situations. To me, trying to explain something is pretty much complex is quite equitable to silence, where the other person still have no idea what you're talking about.

14) Don't blame things on your parents all the time. 'there are many things to be sad of....but there's plenty of things to be happy of as well'. In other words...optimism (to a certain stretch) helps you to embrace....stuff and if they were bad stuff, it converts them into something nicer.

15) Pain is good...meaning that you're growing....in some way....but not literally, nor excessively.

and one last thing: don't forget to breath.



Monday 8 October 2012

Winser's understanding of love: 2012

Hi. Just came across this post by Jasryn a couple weeks ago. At first blush, I was fascinated by such perspective of hers.

Listened to the radio while tried falling asleep. No...it didn't help. Instead, memories came flushing in, which I thought of this post...

Here's some important stuff about Jasryn's post:
You should love yourself. Expecting someone else to do it is like expecting someone else to breathe for you. And it sounds crazy but a lot of people do - they expect someone else to take care of them, to protect them, to fix them.
My boyfriend asked me if I thought he completed me. And I said no.
Because for him to do that I would first have to admit something about me is missing - and a lot of things are; patience, tolerance, understanding - but another person isn't one of them. I've never felt like one half of a whole. Is that bad?
I said I think that we should look for people who complement rather than complete us. Maybe they can smooth some of the jagged edges left by lesser men but being complete should be your own problem.
How can you give someone you love anything less than all you are? How can you expect someone else to fix your problems? Sure, there's pay the bills and help fix the broken light bulb will ya?


lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.
                                                                            
- Joseph Gordon Levitt on 500 Days of Summer



Hmmm...how do I start...
ok.

Yes,
you should love yourself.
it does give you the thrust
to strive harder,
hang on a little longer,
dress a little prettier,
and reflect yourself better.

People see a hole in them
rather than a gap in life



It is not a person that is missing in you,
but rather
something you want is missing in life




and so

People fill themselves
with someone else
or something of aren't theirs
which is never of matching size



You tend to overlook

and expect people
to do the "loving" for you,
drowning you with compliments,
for you would say:
I love those who love me for being who I am.

Either,

Loving yourself doesn't mean that
you complete your own self.



What people seek is what you possess.
But, neither you can they own, nor can you own them.
Thus,
people share.

Complete is of part of me

Complement is more like a package.
as they were never yours.

If it were to be
people being complete without love
there would never be one.

If it were to be
people falling for the idea of a person
is not falling in love
Then, what is love?











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